Before you book
Three ways to do couples therapy, side by side
Couples ask which method to choose. Here are the three we draw on, in plain words. Your clinician explains how they use each one.
| Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) | The Gottman method | Imago therapy | |
|---|---|---|---|
| What it looks at | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)The pattern between you: who reaches, who pulls back, and what each of you feels underneath. | The Gottman methodHow you handle disagreement, friendship and shared goals, starting with a questionnaire each of you fills in. | Imago therapyHow old hurts, often from childhood, show up in the relationship you have now. |
| What a session feels like | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)Mostly conversation, slow and paced. Your clinician helps each of you say what you need and hear the other. | The Gottman methodMore structured: exercises in the room, and goals you set together. | Imago therapyDialogues with a set form: one of you speaks, the other repeats back what they heard. |
| Between sessions | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)Notice the pattern when it happens. No homework unless you want some. | The Gottman methodShort exercises, such as a daily check-in. | Imago therapyA few minutes of the dialogue at home. |
| Who it may suit | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)Couples who keep having the same argument and want to understand it. | The Gottman methodCouples who like a plan and things to practice. | Imago therapyCouples who want a set way to talk when it gets heated. |
| Who offers it at Tether | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)Rebeca Barrera | The Gottman methodHarish Doshi | Imago therapyRebeca Barrera and Harish Doshi, as exercises within a session |
| Session length | Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)50 or 80 minutes, your choice | The Gottman method50 or 80 minutes, your choice | Imago therapy50 or 80 minutes, your choice |
Session length
Whichever you pick, the session is 50 or 80 minutes
- 01
50 minutes
Enough for one topic. Many couples who meet every week choose it.
- 02
80 minutes
Room for both of you to speak, and a pause. We suggest it for the first session and for harder conversations.
Choosing
You do not have to choose a method today
Most couples do not pick a method. They pick a person.
Read Rebeca's and Harish's pages and write to whoever feels right. If the way we work does not fit the two of you, say so and your clinician will change it.
No method is better than another for every couple
Your clinician explains how they use each one
You can ask questions before you book

Ready to write?
Tell us which times suit both of you and which language you prefer.